As I try to make my way through each day of my existence, I am reminded, almost daily, at the gall of some people. I’m sure you’ve seen it. Grown adults behaving badly. Committing acts they would put their own children in timeout for, but somehow, they’ve justified in their own minds that their bad behavior is ok, using their own excuses and wrong logic to proclaim their bad behavior as ok. These are also the same people who, when witnessing other people complete the exact same acts, will immediately cry foul, asking for blood, regardless of that person’s reasoning.
It’s funny how reasoning and excuses are ok when they come from one side of this person’s mouth, but they are offended by the same display when the coin flips.
Sometimes the acts are minor.
How dare that person cut me off in traffic, but when, “I’m late for work, it’s ok. I mean, really. No one got hurt, so whats the harm.”
Two Black Friday shoppers going for the same item. One grabs it out of the other’s hands. The winner is justified, “They should have fought harder, been quicker.” The loser is offended, “What terrible manners. How rude.”
The place where it’s most saddening to me is with words. Deep, cutting, hurtful words flung from one mouth into the life of another, sometimes with the only purpose of cutting down the receiver. At first, one would witness a lot of these verbal assaults anonymously, online, where one can cowardly hide, hurt, and not have to face their attackee.
Then it moved to opening assaulting others, sometimes ones that they claim to be hold as friends or loved ones. Mean posts online, rude comments or tweets. The really sick ones are held under the guise of TBH. What a horrible thing our young people have created with this trend. Opening inviting comments from people only to be the receiver of mean, hurtful, ‘honest’ attacks. We’ve taught a generation to think it’s ok to be cruel and spiteful, as long as you can justify it with ‘just being honest.’
Now the meanness seems to have infected our culture to the core, so much that people will openly abuse others, face-to-face, justifying and excusing themselves with every breath along the way. Things being said directly to people you claim to love or care for, that you wouldn’t dare utter to others, but you believe you have the right to say because you are so in the right. Just because you’re related or have known them forever, makes some people believe they can spew vile comments without ramifications. “What? They needed to hear that.” “I’m just saying.” “It’s not my problem if they can’t handle the truth.”
I’m just so sick of these self-justified bullies spraying all those in their paths. What gives you the power to believe that your so-called ‘truth’ is 1) wanted or 2) anywhere close to the truth in someone’s life. If I’ve learned anything in my years on this planet, it’s that there are at least two sides to every story and sometimes can be as many as four or five. Plus, your unasked for and unnecessary additive is not only unjustified, but mean and hurtful and damaging.
Isn’t it enough? Aren’t we all hurt and struggling enough? Don’t we all say enough damaging things inside our own heads that we don’t need others to pile on the fight?
Can the tearing down of those around us please stop? Can we all agree to that this wasted energy and, instead, put this energy back on ourselves, fixing our own houses or, better yet, using to benefit society as a whole?
I’m just saying….